The scary thing is, there is no creditable measurement for intention. A person's intent can't be proven, it comes from some abstract part of our brain where goodness and rationalization meet to make the concoction called intent that leads us to action. So we can believe all we want.
We can believe that every lie is cushioned with "I honestly didn't know - the right decision, the real feeling", that every screw over and ghosting is a result of human ignorance and busy scheduling and they'll come back, that every heart break is an unintentional manipulation of your soul and that in the moments you two have shared together there had been real, true emotion that in time simply dissipated, and there is no blame to be placed for that...
As relationships grow, as personalities are discovered from the smile lines of each person we encounter, we may begin to estimate intention, but it is never a sure thing simply because we don't have the ability to dive into another's emotional understanding and tactical decision making crossroad. What we can control is our own intention.
We can use the excuse of "being human"
as a rationalization for selfish actions.
We are generation that thinks it's okay to manipulate others for the needs of ourselves, to act out of selfishness as we thrive on the idea that we are living for ourselves and every relationship we support should provide gain for us. Or we can recognize that every day we have the capacity to change a person. We can understand that the words we say hold meaning in another person's heart even if they don't hold any in our own. We can stop hanging our hat on the rack of "Well, I'm human."
Yes, you should live for yourself, you should utilize your autonomy, be choiceful and ambitious about the people that you interact with and the relationships you entertain, but that does not mean that you can parade around and manipulate another person's heart and future just for the fun of it when you know that your true intention is rooted in negligence and fraudulence.
So let's pull back and reassess as we strive to
root our intention in humility and
take responsibility for our actions
rather than using the excuse of cut throat humanity.